Having Confidence
5 February 2008No one wants a date with someone with low self esteem and a negative self image. Try to makeover your self confidence and learn how to be a desirable date with these ideas…
Make a list addressing all the things you are not comfortable with about yourself. Be honest. Establish which things people may not like about you and get an honest second opinion. Change the things that are easy first, and ensure you are comfortable with any alterations.
Address the way you look and dress. By changing the basic aspects of your looks, lifestyle and regime, you will instantly feel more confident. By looking and feeling good about yourself and widening your horizons your life has already changed for the better and your confidence levels are on the up.
There are a few changes that can be made in your daily life. Make sure you are in shape or attempting to be. If you are dieting or exercising, remember to be patient as these changes will take a little while. Also, start doing things you wish you always had the courage to do…maybe a hobby, sport, class or society. Learn to enjoy the smaller things in life and give yourself time especially for these things. If you like to cook for friends, then start having dinner parties.
Start dating…if someone has asked you out, accept. If not, be proactive and ask someone out yourself who you like. Just do it, and accept the fact that some people will say no…but many will also say yes. Begin to make conversation with the nice people you meet along the way. Become sociable and look good at every opportunity. Now start to be selective about what kind of people you really like. But by the same token, talk to everyone. The more people who are interested, the higher your confidence levels.
Remember to stay away from people that bring you down or criticize you. Whether a friend or a potential date, you deserve better. Walk away from anything you don’t like and instill a positive attitude in everything that you do.
on March 23rd, 2008 at 1:55 pm
my mom always told me, everyday i should think of one good thing about myself before i rise from bed. it actually helped me to feel good about myself.
on April 18th, 2008 at 1:41 am
Look in the mirror - smile and say “Look at me. I am sexy!”
on May 12th, 2008 at 2:38 am
From a mature man’s point-of-view….
There is nothing more attractive to a man seeking a deep and lasting relationship (marriage?) than a woman with a strong sense of her own value as a person and as a human being.
The “wrapping” on the package may attract a crowd of suitors but it’s the contents which endures when the glitter is gone.
Your inner worth is what counts in the long term.
on May 13th, 2008 at 7:20 am
Confidence is highly important but only few people who really have the confidence. It is time people instill confidence into their brain.
on May 16th, 2008 at 4:23 pm
A very good article but some lack of the confidence if they physically don’t look attractive/good. That’s why changing apperance wise can really help on the confidence level.
on May 20th, 2008 at 3:09 am
I’d say build up your inner confidence first, and the outer will follow. I agree with Chris about th importance of doing the external changes in your lifestyle, getting fit and well-dressed, and all. But these are trappings on the outside, the “wrapping,” as Jim puts it. People can easily sense true confidence if it’s coming from the inside, when you have a genuine reckoning and appreciation of your self-worth. Of course, feeling good about your body and your appearance complements the inner confidence perfectly.
on May 21st, 2008 at 10:23 am
Having truely confidence can’t be describe by words. It must be shown out that you do have confidence! Always set your mind that ‘I am the best!’ repeat and repeat!
on May 21st, 2008 at 3:00 pm
confidence has to come from oneself. First, learn to love yourself then others will learn to love you too
on May 31st, 2008 at 7:16 am
Confidence make you success. Only people with confidence will success in their life. Tell ourself about our advantage, then we will become more confidence
on June 13th, 2008 at 8:44 am
Staying away from people who criticize you is so crucial. Even if they are “joking” and claim to be your friend, too many comments can wear you down.
Even if they’re not necessarily critizing you, but also are just negative in general. It’s easy to turn into the people who associate with, so find positive people!
Great advice! Stay happy!
on June 17th, 2008 at 11:26 am
but over confidence is not good for you
on June 21st, 2008 at 9:45 am
Self confidence is an item that requires permanent everyday work. It should come deep out of you, not just from the surface, otherwise you’ll forget about your ‘confidence’ in any critical situation.